In May of last year, I got remarried to my current wife (Faith), having been divorced from my first wife - my son’s mom, several years ago. Following the divorce, I became a single parent to my disabled son Chris. While I doubted that new love could find me, I met...
In This Episode
- Discover why Paul’s words in Philippians 3:1 are a model for gospel-centered repetition.
- Learn how repetition creates safety, stability, and connection—especially for children with disabilities.
- Understand why joy, not frustration, can accompany the routines we repeat daily.
- Hear how parenting moments mirror God’s own heart toward His creation.
- Be encouraged to find grace in the monotony of everyday faithfulness.
“To write the same things to you is not troublesome to me, and for you it is a safeguard.” — Philippians 3:1
The Reality of Repetition
Dr. Hulshof begins by unpacking Paul’s simple but profound phrase: “To write the same things to you.” Paul acknowledges that repetition is necessary in relationships and discipleship. In the same way, many parents—especially those raising children with disabilities—find themselves saying and doing the same things again and again. Whether it’s a familiar joke, a goodbye routine, or a movie quote, repetition becomes part of the fabric of love. Like Paul writing to the Philippians, Dr. Hulshof reminds us that some things must be repeated. These repeated moments are not failures of communication, but acts of care and consistency.The Response to Repetition
Paul continues, “To write the same things to you is not troublesome to me.” His tone reflects love and joy, not irritation. Even while imprisoned, Paul expresses joyful contentment that transcends circumstance. His willingness to repeat himself flows out of affection for the Philippians—his “favorite” church, as Dr. Hulshof notes—and a heart anchored in gratitude. For parents, this becomes a spiritual challenge. Repetition can often feel exhausting, but when viewed through Paul’s example, it becomes an opportunity to cultivate joy. When frustration creeps in, Dr. Hulshof shares how prayer transforms his perspective: “Father, I’m struggling as a dad here. Like Paul, I want to say this is a happy task, but it doesn’t feel like that.” God meets him in that prayer and helps him see the joy reflected in his son’s eyes during moments of repetition.The Rationale for Repetition
Paul explains the purpose behind his repetition: “...for you it is a safeguard.” Repetition provides both safety and stability. Dr. Hulshof illustrates this through an everyday example—passing by “The Backyard,” a favorite spot for his son. If he suddenly refused to repeat their familiar exchange, his son’s sense of safety would be shaken. In love, Dr. Hulshof chooses consistency, knowing that repeated words anchor his son’s world. In the same way, God’s repetition in creation—His daily renewal of the world—anchors ours.Dr. Hulshof concludes that perhaps his son’s love for repetition reflects something divine—a heart more like God’s than our own weary adult hearts. In those moments of frustration, his prayer becomes simple: “God, make my heart like his, so that my heart looks like Yours.”“Children have abounding vitality... For grown-up people are not strong enough to exult in monotony. But perhaps God is strong enough to exult in monotony.” — G.K. Chesterton, Orthodoxy
Resources Mentioned
- Philippians 3:1 — “To write the same things to you is not troublesome to me, and for you it is a safeguard.”
- Orthodoxy by G.K. Chesterton
- Letter to the Philippians (Philippians 1:7–8, referenced in discussion)





